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Own Your Paradigm.

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Patrick Grover

Ontological Coaching: engaging & challenging your current way of being as a means for change. Most coaching focuses on what you should do or your "Doings". Ontological coaching focuses on who you are being, because your way of being determines everything you do. Being: the fundamental state or fact of existence. Doing: To add new behaviors in an effort to produce a different outcome. Example: Traditional Coach (Doing) “What you need to do is hold your team more accountable. Schedule weekly check-ins and performance reviews.” Ontological Coach (Being)- “You’re already know how to do check-ins. The real issue isn’t the structure, it’s that you’re showing up hesitant and avoiding difficult conversations. What would it look like if you showed up as the leader fully responsible for the standard of the team?” Being. The difference? Doing adds new behaviors. Being shifts the way you interact with the world and the behaviors follow naturally. Deeper Dive- If one’s “existential state of being” is misaligned with reality, it produces distortion in paradigm and action. But if one aligns with what is, with the structure of Being itself- clarity, ownership, and power emerge. For even more of a deep dive, look to the "Read more" section of Ontological philosophy directly below this. ⬇️

Ontological philosophy concerns the nature of being, existence, and reality. At its core, ontology asks foundational questions such as: What does it mean to be? What is the fundamental nature of reality? What kinds of things truly exist? What constitutes something as “real”? What is the relationship between essence and existence? How does one’s existential state of being shape perception, paradigm, and subsequent action? The word ontology derives from the Greek: Ontos- being & Logos- to study Ontology literally means “the study of being.” Ontology within philosophy is a central branch of metaphysics. It explores the categories of existence: objects, properties, events, relationships, consciousness and the distinction or interaction between objectivity & subjectivity. It also explores the entanglement between appearance, perception, and reality. Whether abstract entities, like "numbers, time, identity, or self" this metaphysics branch examines not just what is perceived, but what is, independent from, or inseparable to perception itself. Ontology can appear nihilistic because it questions assumed foundations. But in practice, it is the opposite of nihilism. Cosmological and Personalistic ontology are in constant motion regardless of awareness. Just as mathematical geometry operates whether or not it is understood by the observer, the structures of "being" and "reality" unfold continuously. Awareness does not create ontology; it reveals one’s participation in it. Your “existential state of being”, the way you are oriented toward existence, influences paradigm, interpretation, and action. In that sense, ontology is not abstract speculation. It is the ground from which experience, meaning, and movement arise. Ontology ultimately gestures toward a non-contingent ground of being- a necessary reality that underlies and sustains all contingent existence. In this sense, ontology converges with theology, not as dogma, but as metaphysical inquiry into the grounds of existence itself. In classical philosophy (Aristotle, Aquinas), ontology ultimately leads to the question: Is there a necessary ground of all contingent being? That necessary ground is often identified with God — not as a being among beings, but as Being itself (ipsum esse subsistens). Not all ontological systems conclude in theology. Aristotle / Aquinas → Necessary Being (theological grounding) Heidegger → Being itself beyond theological framing Sartre → Being without necessary metaphysical grounding Spinoza → Substance (God/Nature as one) If reality itself has a non-contingent ground, then: Being is not accidental. Existence is not arbitrary. Participation and ownership in reality carries weight.

Ontology vs. Epistemology Ontology is experiential; something you experience. Epistemology is knowledge; something you know. One adds knowledge. The other transforms the person operating the knowledge. Epistemology changes what you know. Ontology changes who you are being. Epistemological change: “I learned a new leadership strategy.” Ontological change: “I became someone who takes full responsibility for the standard of the team”.

 

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